To cope with this unpleasant feeling of anxiety, guys will spend their whole lives using coping mechanisms. The main ones are masturbation/porn, comfort eating and alcohol. There is also drugs, smoking and gambling. These things divert their thoughts from the male bullies so you do not get the unpleasant anxiety response. Masturbation/porn is the most insidious/pernicious of the coping mechanisms as (unlike the other coping mechanisms) society has concluded it is harmless because of the following illogical reasoning: "religion says it is bad, i dont believe in religion, therefore it isnt bad". They are not realising that there may be other reasons why it is bad such as it physically damages the penis and the nervous system.
The best way to relieve yourself of anxiety is to make amends with males in your past you are afraid of. Many men do not want to admit that other males have caused their suffering as it automatically makes them feel inferior. But that is the case. Either get an apology from them or let them know you are not happy with stand up to them physically/have it out with them. That way you will not be scared of them any more and so can move on.
But you really need initially to face up to the anxiety response that will result if you cut out coping mechanisms. Replace the masturbating/porn with other healthy activities such as sunbathing (vitamin D is important for bodily function), exercise and healthy eating. Daily masturbation is particularly damaging as your body/brain/nervous system is constantly damaged and in repair mode and so you will always feel unwell. You really need to stop masturbating as that is linked to the nervous system and brain and therefore your mood. It also is damaging to the penis. Consequently your body goes into repair mode and so your body represses your feel good chemicals so that you dont feel like sexual activity. It also means energy goes into repairing the penis rather than fixing other parts of the body and developing other male characteristics (so you end up being less attractive).
Once your body is repaired you feel much more up to tackling the male bullies of your past. And once you have squashed your beef you will no longer feel in a state of anxiety/looking over your shoulder type mood and can look to the future.
A lot of the time the reason you self sabotage is because you want to appease the bullies. You dont want to get better because if you get better you fear this will get the attention of the bullies and they will come to knock you back down again. You reason that if you are on the floor they will stay away as you are down and out.
Example case study of how male on male bullying causes trauma or in other words persistent ongoing anxiety. As I explained this is because the bullies are still alive so you fear they could come back at any moment. This goes in contrast to the mainstream narrative that male life is a walk in the park and it is females that face hardship. Posted on reddit nofap:
"Been going through a very rough time lately, struggling with clinical depression and daily panic attacks.
I decided to start NoFap to help, along with my medications and exercise regime.
On day 3 of NoFap, and I just completely broke down for the first time in years while listening to the song "Somewhere only we know" by Keane.
All my years of being bullied, trauma, resorting to watching porn and video games everyday to escape reality, led me to this miserable state.
I just couldn't control my emotions and cried for almost an hour.
But it felt amazing. And I'm ready to continue fighting my demons tomorrow."
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